20 Ways to Decline a Holiday Invitation

One of the things I hear most when I am giving a workshop on stress management, is that people struggle to set boundaries and to say no. People tell me that they have trouble finding the right words. While "no thanks" is a complete sentence, I understand that people do not want to offend anyone and simply saying "no thanks" can feel a bit curt. 

As the holidays are approaching quickly and invitations are plentiful, I wanted to share 20 polite ways to decline a holiday invitation. And if you are on the fence and need time to think about it, telling someone you need to get back to them is acceptable as well. Still not sure? Check out my blog post on How to Stop Feeling Guilty for Setting Boundaries.

1. Thank you for the invitation, but I'm afraid I can't make it.
2. I appreciate the offer, but I won't be able to attend.
3. I have other commitments on that day, so I won't be able to join.
4. Thanks for thinking of me, but I have a prior engagement.
5. I'm afraid I have to decline due to a scheduling conflict.
6. Unfortunately, I won't be able to make it this time.
7. I appreciate your invitation, but I won't be able to participate.
8. I have something else planned for that day, so I won't be able to come.
9. Thanks for the invitation, but I'm unable to attend.
10. I have a prior commitment, so I won't be able to accept your invitation.
11. I'm afraid I can't make it, but I hope you all have a great time.
12. I won't be able to join you, but I appreciate the invitation.
13. Unfortunately, I have another engagement and won't be able to attend.
14. I'm unavailable on that date, so I have to decline.
15. I'm sorry, but I won't be able to make it to the event.
16. Thanks for inviting me, but I won't be able to come this time.
17. I appreciate your kindness, but I have to say no to this invitation.
18. I have a conflicting appointment, so I won't be able to join.
19. I won't be able to attend this time, but I hope we can plan something in the future.
20. I'm afraid I can't make it, but I'm grateful for the invitation.

Need more inspiration? Check out my friend, Lisa Griffith's blog post on how saying no to baking Christmas cookies opened up a new tradition for her family!